About five months after my mastectomy my family was sitting around the table after finishing dinner, lingering in the joy of each other’s company. I don’t even remember what we were talking about, but before I knew it we were all erupting in laughter–the deep belly, tears running down your cheeks kind and I remember thinking it felt so good to laugh like that. In fact, I couldn’t remember the last time I had laughed that hard.
In those precious moments something happened to my soul. I was no longer carrying around the stress breast cancer brings into our lives, but instead felt a sense of release as I allowed myself to have a good laugh. I felt a surge of strength come into my spirit that I hadn’t felt for a long time and so desperately needed. Proverbs 17:22: “A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a broken spirit saps a person’s strength.” I think that’s what happened at the table that night, suddenly my strength was being re-energized by laughter–and it was good medicine to my soul.
There are over 48 references about laughter in the Bible. And in the verse in Proverbs, it says that laughter holds as much healing power as medicine. In fact, research shows laughter to be therapeutic. There are health centers across the country treating patients suffering from conditions like depression, stress, and diabetes with laughter therapy. Now medical science agrees with what the Bible has said about the benefits of laughter. Laughter is a powerful remedy for stress, pain, and conflict. Nothing works faster or more dependably to bring your mind and body back into balance after a good laugh. Laughter lightens your burdens, inspires hope, connects you to others, and keeps you more focused on the positive. Furthermore, it relaxes the whole body relieving physical tension and stress, leaving your muscles relaxed for up to 45 minutes later. It boosts the immune system, triggers the release of endorphins, the body’s natural feel-good chemicals promoting an overall sense of well-being, and can even temporarily relieve pain. And laughter, protects the heart. Wow, God knew what He was doing when He gave us the prescription for laughter.
Perhaps, there is no greater time in our life for the soul medicine of laughter or a “cheerful heart” than when we’re going through life’s most difficult times. If you think about it, those times are too often characterized by just the opposite depleting us of all our strength making it hard to persevere. Once our strength disappears, our spirits so easily become crushed. But God has a remedy for us. In the middle of our hardships, God can come in and heal our souls through the simple medicine of laughter or humor. Not that the hardship is funny in any way; it isn’t! But we are given some relief through the laughter itself in the middle of it–something our soul desperately needs if we’re to live uncrushed in spirit. Nehemiah 8:10 further confirms this: “The joy of the Lord is your strength.” And a cheerful heart is a continual medicine strengthening us both inwardly and outwardly.
Laughing during cancer? Yes, laughter was God’s way of increasing our strength in the midst of the impossible. Somehow, laughter interspersed with the days and weeks of deep grief and sadness can make the unbearable bearable. Life can get so heavy and laden with burdens, but laughter gives us a break so that we can carry on in the midst of them. It doesn’t take the pain away, but it does provide a much-needed emotional break. Again, Proverbs reminds us that laughter is good medicine for our beaten down souls.
I recently read about a man, Bob Carey, whose wife, Linda, battled cancer. He began to take beautiful, but completely ridiculous photos of himself in a pink tutu. He said, “When Linda would go in for treatment, she would take the images on her phone and the women would look at them and it would make them laugh and make the time pass.” Bob braved snow in his pink tutu. He even traveled to Italy—in his pink tutu! All to cheer his wife’s heart in the face of a devastating disease. He was always on the lookout for creative ways to capture himself in the tutu—all to make his wife and friends laugh. “Oddly enough,” he said, “her cancer has taught us that life is good, dealing with it can be hard, and sometimes the very best thing—no, the only thing—we can do to face another day is to laugh at ourselves, and share a laugh with others.”
Laughter gives us a sense of comfort that often provides us with the encouragement we need to face what is before us with a renewed strength.
God created laughter and humor because He knew that we would need the soul medicine it provides in this fallen world. So, how do we take this soul medicine and make it part of our daily spiritual health regimen?
Find your funny bone and tickle it.
One of the nightly rituals I started during some really hard years was to watch the back-to-back reruns of “I Love Lucy” before bed. They made me laugh so hard, and for an hour every night my weary soul was strengthened. Those minutes of laughter lightened the load of my heart and gave me a break. Find what tickles your funny bone and make it a regular habit to build laughter time into your life.
Surround yourself with people who live life joyfully.
Have friends in your circle who know how to have fun and have a good sense of humor and can make you laugh. Those people who can find humor in the day-to-day events. Laughter is contagious. I had the blessing of growing up in a home with a mother who had a great sense of humor and fun. It has been a therapeutic blessing throughout my life to spend time with her and to be reminded to laugh and enjoy life even in hard times. Laughter has a way of bonding us together, saying we’re in this together, so let’s have some fun along the way.
Ask God to help you find something to laugh about even when it seems like there’s nothing to laugh about.
Look for the funny, lighthearted things in life. There are a lot of joyful things in our lives when we train ourselves to look for them. Even when there has been nothing to laugh about in my circumstances, God has helped me to find the humor in some small thing.
Count your blessings. As you begin to intentionally count your blessings, you will find your heart becoming more merry or cheerful instead of discouraged. We can find something to be thankful about even in the difficult times. As we practice thanking God, we begin to see our blessings more clearly. And there is something wonderful about a grateful spirit; it does wonders for our heart and outlook in general.
Develop a sense of humor.
So often we take ourselves too seriously. Certainly there are those times in life that are not occasions for laughter, but most of life is ordinary living and we can choose whether to find laughter and joy or not. It can begin by learning to laugh at yourself and look for the funny around you.
Joy, humor, and laughter should be part of everyone’s spiritual life. They are gifts from God. Hand-in-hand, faith and laughter is the best medicine for your soul. From the beginning, God knew how important laughter would be in our lives long before the medical world would discover the incredible benefits to our physical and mental health. It’s an important practice to develop if we’re to survive in this broken world. So look for things to laugh about. Try focusing on the blessings God has given you rather than only on the difficulties in your life. Find ways to tickle your funny bone. Use the gift that God has given and laugh! It’s good medicine for your soul.